In this Radio Adelaide Interview, Briony explains that most couples find it easy to point the finger when they think their partner is doing something wrong. But it’s just as important to tell your partner what you like about what they do. During couples therapy Briony focuses on both:
In other words, scanning for strengths to build upon is just as important as identifying problem areas. The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is positively oriented. It helps couples find the positive connection points that get buried under distress or conflict. There’s often so much love beneath everything else — and also so much more to discover about one another. John and Julie Gottman revolutionized relationship counselling by focussing on the positives.
Using the Gottman Method, Briony teaches couples about common destructive behaviours in an easily understandale way. These include criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Briony helps couples catch their partner doing something positive tell them about it! You can also learn how to catch yourself doing things that don’t contribute to the kind of relationship you want. Once couples see themselves engaging in those behaviours, they start to see their role in relationship difficulties more clearly.
In a recent interview with Radio Adelaide Briony introduces the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy and how it is used.